Kids are having kids! Eleven year old, twelve year old and thirteen year old kids
are having babies! Why? Because they are having SEX! Unfortunately they don't think
that having sex will lead to getting pregnant. Kids don't think about their consequences,
they just want to have sex. And that's the problem.
My 50+ years of experience, talking to millions and millions of kids, tells the
story: teen sex leads to babies, teen sex leads to unwanted pregnancy, teen sex
leads to suicide, teen sex leads to drug addiction, teen sex leads to alcoholism,
teen sex leads to AIDS and HIV, teen sex leads to STD's. Teen sex is not only a
moral issue, it's a health issue and it's a NATIONAL HEALTH ISSUE!
I have had countless T.V. and Radio shows throughout my career, including The David
Toma Show on a local network. The show was an hour long and on three times a week
nationally. One particular show I did, I will never forget. It was on Teenage Pregnancy.
There were 30 teenage girls on the show all were either pregnant or had already
had their babies. Only two girls of the thirty had boyfriends tell them they would
take care of them. Some of the girls were told to have abortions by their boyfriends.
There were girls who told me personally that they had had abortions before and that
decision haunted them because they felt guilty for killing their unborn babies.
Here they were pregnant again, but this time they were going to keep the baby. Remember,
these are teenagers who had already been pregnant once, and had an abortion and
were pregnant again! They just don't learn from their mistakes.
Parents, what are you going to do about this national crisis? School Administrators,
what are you going to do about this national crisis? Local government and health
agencies, what are you going to do about this national crisis? Some 'experts' preach
non-abstinence based on the theory that kids will have sex anyway, so why not teach
them to have safe sex. These experts haven't seen what I saw on the streets as a
detective. They haven't heard the personal stories, thousands of them, that I heard
while a beat cop in Newark, New Jersey.
Parents have given up on teaching total abstinence to their kids. They take their
daughters to the doctor to get them birth control pills, so they won't get pregnant.
Well guess what? They get pregnant anyway! There is no birth control pill that is
100% safe, and many have dangerous side effects, like blood clots that lead to death!
Condoms are not 100% safe either. Protected sex is not the answer, total abstinence
is. I am a parent and now a grand parent and guess what my wife and I taught our
kids and now are teaching our grand child? Total Abstinence. Was it easy? No! But
I will not surrender to complacency. I did whatever it took to make sure my kids
knew that premarital sex was not an option.
Recently at a high school in Massachusetts, seventeen girls got pregnant on purpose!
They had made a pact to get pregnant. Why? Because they wanted someone to love them
unconditionally. One girl had sex with a homeless man so she could get pregnant.
Are these kids nuts? What is this world coming to? Is this the latest fad? To bring
a precious human being into this world on a whim is criminal.
What will happen to these babies when their teenage mothers get bored. Babies aren't
always fun, they get sick, they get cranky, they have demands that need to be met
24/7 for 18 years! Who is going to love these precious babies when these teenagers
abandon them? How many of these babies will be abused by their teenage mothers because
they can't handle the stress of parenthood? Will these babies end up in foster care,
will they be raised by their grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins or total strangers?
When these girls got pregnant because they want someone to love them unconditionally,
day in and day out, they forgot that you also have to love unconditionally, even
when you are tired and you are sick, and you are lonely, and you are poor and you
are ready to give up, you have to love your child and keep going for their sake.
Raising a child is the biggest responsibility a person can take on. A child's whole
future lies in the hands of their parents. It's a huge decision and certainly not
one that should be made in the back seat of a car, or at a pajama party.
The 40,000,000 (that's right forty million!) kids I have talked with over my career
gives me the expertise to tell you that absolute abstinence is the only thing that
works. I have heard personally the horror stories of back alley abortions that went
wrong. I have personally visited kids in the hospital who tried to kill themselves
and their unborn babies because they were too scared to tell their parents they
were pregnant. Imagine being so afraid to tell your parents you were pregnant that
you would rather kill yourself and an innocent growing inside you! I have held young
girls in my arms as they died from AIDS which they contracted from having oral sex.
They thought that oral sex was safe sex! I have counseled thousands of girls who
were gang raped because they had a reputation for being easy.
My twenty years on the streets as a cop and then as a detective made me see things
I still have nightmares about: mothers throwing their babies off bridges into freezing
rivers, babies killed by their teenage mothers because they wouldn't stop crying,
babies in dumpsters, babies thrown away like garbage! We are a throw away society
and we throw our babies away too! I have seen it all!!!
Don't tell me that non-abstinence and sex education are the answer, because you
are dead wrong. The only answer is Absolute Abstinence.
Let's get back to basics. A baby is a human being. Creating a human being is a gift
from God. This is the ultimate act of love between two people who are committed
to their lives together.
How many teenagers practice safe sex? My experience tells me very few. In the heat
of passion, is a young kid going to stop and put on a condom? No! Many teenagers
think that having oral sex is a way to practice safe sex. They are dead wrong. Former
President Bill Clinton, told the Great American Lie on national television when
he said, "I did not have sex with that woman." Well Mr. Clinton, even if you never
kissed her sweet lips, even if you never touched her, she certainly touched you.
You had an orgasm and that is sex. Any form of physical intimacy is SEX: kissing,
petting, rubbing, fondling, is SEX!
Parents, please don't let you guard down for one minute. Don't let your teenagers
have their boyfriend or girlfriend over to do homework up in their bedroom. That
is a ticking time bomb. You were a teenager once, remember what is was like? Teenagers
are full of raging hormones, that is Mother Nature's way. Your job is to control
that sexual energy with lots of exercise, strong moral values and non-stop parental
I have preached Absolute Abstinence for over 50 years. I will not surrender to popular
theories by people who are supposed experts who don't have my background and don't
know what they are talking about. I can absolutely guarantee you that your child
will not get pregnant, will not get AIDS, and HIV, will not get STD's, will not
end up killing themselves when you teach your children the value of a strong moral
code of conduct.
I know only too well that there is tremendous peer pressure to have sex. So what!
Your kids can say no and stick to their values. I have gone against the grain my
whole life. I have never caved into peer pressure, not when I was growing up, not
when I was a policeman, not when I was a detective, not when I was in Hollywood....never.
I have never backed down from a situation just because someone wanted me to.
Waiting for the right person to share your live with, body, mind and soul is worth
it. It's a life long commitment. My wife and I have been married over 50 years.
The night before we got married I came home to my parents house a little late. My
father was waiting up for me, and demanded an explanation. I still lived under his
roof, and he made the rules and I obeyed them.
My philosophy on all the problems we have today has not changed. If you don't take
drugs, you won't become a drug addict. If you don't drink, you won't become an alcoholic.
If you don't have pre-marital sex, you won't become pregnant. It won't be easy,
but it will be worth it.
Let me tell you that when I talk to kids at schools about Absolute Abstinence, I
get a standing ovation. They want to hear more about how to live a good clean life
and how to live the right way. They want someone to love them and discipline them.
They know I love them, and they know I know what I am talking about. Your kids want
your guidance, your kids want your love. Love your kids enough to teach them absolute
Thank You and I Love You All